We all go through dry seasons, a time when not much is happening and it doesn’t appear that God has heard our persistent prayers. So what do you do during those dry times? There is a temptation to get frustrated and get mad at God for not moving ‘fast enough’. But our timing is different to God’s. We look at the timings in our life in terms of hours, weeks, months and years but God’s timing is in seasons, appointed times and set times.
I’m sure you’ve asked God the question at some point: “When Lord? When is it MY TIME to be married? I’ve prayed, I’ve fasted and I’ve waited. When Lord? How much longer will I have to wait? Where is she/he? What do you do when you’ve done all you know how to and you’re STILL waiting?
I encourage you to REST and to trust God’s timing. Rest in God’s word and rest in his promises. “You will arise and have compassion on Zion, for it is time to show favour to her; the appointed time has come,” Psalm 102:13. Your appointed time will come!!!!
Our God is faithful and knows the beginning, middle and end and sees things that we don’t see. There are obstacles, challenges and issues that we will be confronted with in our relationships/marriages and we need to be fully prepared spiritually, emotionally and financially which takes time and is part of the process to receive the promise. We need to learn how to pray, seek God and wait on him. Some people look great on the outside but their heart is still not healed from previous relationships. This season is the time to seek total healing and wholeness from God. So when a whole man finds and pursues a whole woman they will have a whole marriage that will ultimately bring glory to God. Proverbs 18:22 says: “He who finds a wife find a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” You need to be a wife when he finds you. Practice being a wife while single.
Also, this season is designed for us to grow and mature spiritually so that we are dependent on God as our source. When Jesus is the source we won’t go into a marriage needy, demanding and desperate for something that ultimately only God can give us despite our actions–unconditional love, peace, joy etc.
We are in the ‘Single Season’ and it’s a gift from God and eventually our season will change!! Instead of focusing on when our seasons will change get ready by faith because it will happen. God is preparing and equipping us right now, so let’s embrace it and enjoy the journey. God’s Word cannot lie, it clearly states: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4. Rest in the assurance that God will do what he said he will do in his perfect timing.
- Our main priority should be our relationship with God.
- Our ‘Season of Singleness’ is a time of self-development and self-improvement though studying God’s word and cultivating Christ authored relationships.
- Don’t make too many concrete plans while single as it’s likely to change. Once married our first role is to be a help mate to our husbands.
- Learn to forgive now because once married offence will come.
- Cut off ex- boyfriends. A wife should not be in contact with her ex’s.
In the ‘Season of Singleness’ I encourage KC Women to pray for their husbands from now by faith and for the KC Men to pray for their wives. Pray for him and speak the Word of God over him. Words are powerful!!! “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit,” Proverbs 18: 21.
I recommend a book called: “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. It’s a book of short prayers for everything from His Purpose, His Faith, His Work, His Past, His Relationships, His Sexuality, His Fears, His Priorities etc. She has also written a version for the men called “The Power of a Praying Husband” which has a series of short prayers for Her spirit, Her Emotions, Her Submission, Her Moods, Her Protection, Her Motherhood and her Beauty etc. I love that the prayers are short but very powerful.
Let’s rest in God knowing that the best is yet to come.