A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
The pursuit of something you want can be an exciting prospect. For men, pursuing a woman can come with many benefits and a few pitfalls. At the recent KC Community Event in February 2016, both men and women shared their experience of pursuing and being pursued.
Why don’t men pursue?
The struggle is real for some and rejection is no joke for most men, especially when you are interested in a woman, to be turn down by her in the middle of your pursuit is enough to put most off from even trying. Some cultures can even drag the rejection out; specific reference was made to Nigerian women, with two attendees even doing an impromptu role play showing exactly how a Nigerian woman rejects her suitor.
“It’s a cultural thing, the ladies from Nigeria have graduated from the university of “how to reject a man”” said a male attendee.
So why would a woman reject a pursuing man?
For most women the art of pursuit is very much about the approach. The group however did agree that the Holy Spirit was central to the pursuit.
“It is how he approaches you”, one attendee said. “If a guy comes up to me randomly on the street and asks for my number, sorry I am going to say no.”
Others agreed. “Total stranger….ummm not sure really I would give my number to him.”
Too much choice?
In Christian circles there tends to be a 4:1 ratio of women to men, this leaves men with a lot of choice. Men have options, which can make it hard to decide who to pursue. But for most men the general consensus was once you have seen something that you like, you will go after that and pursue it with vigor.
As followers of Jesus we should always remember we are not acting alone and when we do meet someone that the relationship is three-pronged. The relationship between a man and a woman is three-way, not just male and female but God is also involved heavily in the relationship. For women the pursuit of a man can be confusing and there can be mixed signals from men, as sometimes you may not be sure if they just want to remain friends. Men have to discern and if you chose the wrong one you could ruin two people’s lives. But fear not, always remembers what the Bible says about rejection and how to handle it:
2 Corinthians 12:9
“”My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me”
So should men always pursue?
Yes, of course! Men should ultimately pursue. Scripture makes it clear, He who finds a wife, not she. The woman is to be pursued. If the woman decides to pursue there is greater responsibility on her, if she