When I first heard about the second KC retreat my initial reaction was “Errrr didn’t we just have one a few months ago? How can it top the first one which was really good?” I have to admit the sequels to most things are not the best but it wasn’t the case for the second KC Retreat. It was very different to the first one in April since it was in a different location with a different mix of people but it was still fun and it was nice to hang out with other like minded people who love Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!

I drove up to Sussex on Friday evening with Christian, Abena and Natalie. The main goal was to beat Friday night traffic and get to the venue BEFORE 8.30pm when they stop serving dinner!! We weren’t messing about. Thankfully, Christian got us there with about 5 minutes to spare. The retreat was held at Ashburnham Place which is a beautiful stately home with 38 bedrooms set in 220 acres of stunning grounds and gardens with three lakes that was once home to an aristocrat family who couldn’t afford the inheritance tax bill and gave it to a Christian trust for us all to enjoy!! Think Downtown Abbey but with more beautiful grounds. We didn’t have the whole house to ourselves by the way there were people from other churches and organisations.

After dinner, we started the evening session at about 9pm in one of the rooms in the stately home. Around 80% of people were present but tired and the rest arrived on Saturday morning. Pastor Bayo started off by asking us: “How we rated KC out of five?” He went around the room and we had to describe our experience and give a mark out of five and I’d say the average was 3.5 out of 5. Most people said they loved KC Community and the social events which give them the opportunity to meet like minded people and learn principles that will guide them during friendship, courting, engagement and marriage but most people were disappointed that there hasn’t been any engagements/marriages birthed out of KC yet. The Pastor explained that “it wasn’t his fault”. He can take us 90% of the way but ultimately it’s on the KC Men and KC Women that are responsible for making things happen.

On Saturday morning around twenty four of us gathered together for an amazing time of praise, worship and prayer. Pastor Femi [Pastor’s friend] led the first session.

So what did we learn?

  • Increase your expectation in God!! Expectation is the key to answered prayer.

The expectation of the righteous will not be cut off (Proverbs 23:19). Be emotionally mature enough to say what you expect from God and set out with an expectation. When the women with issue of blood touched the hem of Jesus’ garment she expected to be healed and her expectation was met (Luke 8: 43-44).

  • We need to remember that God is ABLE to answer our prayers. “Now to him who is able to do infinitely more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” (Ephesians 3:20).
  • The Holy Spirit is our helper!! “God wants to help you but it’s up to the power that is in you,” Pastor Femi said. When we study the Word of God it strengthens us. The only thing that God responds to and respects is his word. The only way that you can remember the word is when the Holy Spirit reminds you.
  • We are single and want to get married, so Pastor Femi strongly advised to confess/speak the Word of God. Read the bible and pull together verses on getting married. “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God,” (Romans 10:17). We need to SPEAK the word and not just read it. The book of Joshua says: “This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night” (Joshua 1:8).
  • We need to remind ourselves of who we are in Christ. We are a chosen generation and a royal priesthood. “You need to lose your false identify and adopt your real identify. God wants you to be in charge,” Pastor Bayo.

A large portion of the retreat was centred on Kingdom Wealth. Our wealth is what God has deposited in us in the form of talents, gifts and abilities which are all for his glory. We were also reminded of the important of hearing the Word of God and DOING what it says so that we can be fruitful. “Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share,” (1 Timothy 6:18). When God blesses are, we should bless others, especially his children. Pastor Bayo reminded us that the role of our work is to:

  • Represent God in the workplace
  • To fund the kingdom of God
  • To bless the people of God

We didn’t just gain wisdom that we can apply to our lives. I met several people that i’ve never even seen at the monthly Monday meet up. There was an abundance of tea and homemade cake, my favourite things!! This time the food was served for us, unlikely last time where we had to cook and clear up.

On Saturday evening, Christian organised a quiz of the capital cities in the world separated by continents. I’m not gonna lie, the competition was fierce and everyone wanted to win. Who would’ve thought that the capital city of New York is Albany? I had no idea, this is bad, I went to Albany and lived in New York and I didn’t know it was the capital city. This is shameful!! The quiz was not only fun but educational.

A few of us who’s names will not be mentioned stayed up on Saturday night lounging on the sofas in the library until 3.30am talking about everything from interracial relationships ie Black men and white women, to how the KC Men see successful Christian women and the way they communicate with a women they’re really interested in. Ladies, just know if a man is really serious about you and wants to get to know you he will pick up the phone and call you!!! Men, the women at KC like consistency, so if you say something than follow through on what you say. The general consensus from our late night conversation was that people make time for what is important to them so if he/she is behaving like they don’t care about you than more than likely they don’t so keep it moving!!!

I loved the retreat and I saw it has a unique opportunity to hang out in a beautiful stately manor with amazing people. I’ve formed friendships through this retreat with people who I haven’t had the chance to talk to properly at the Monday meetings and once again laughed so much to the point of tears.

Once again, seeds of knowledge and wisdom were sown into our spirits and it’s my prayer that they have fallen on good soil and will reap a bountiful harvest in our friendships and future marriages. I’m still looking forward and waiting with EXPECTATION of the time when we can dance at each other’s weddings and laugh at the day s to come knowing that those seeds of wisdom that have been planted during our season of singleness will be clearly evidenced by good fruit. We give God thanks for the opportunity. It was pretty amazing. NEW things are coming! Be EXPECTANT!

By Stacy Irish