“This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! Genesis 2.23 (ESV)

· How do you measure compatibility?
· What do you measure it against?  Perhaps a previous relationship?
· Do you know what you are looking for in a relationship or mate?
· How would you consciously recognise these when you encounter them?

It’s All About The Bone

Most times we focus on “flesh” rather than “bones” forgetting that the “bone” is what gives structure and form to the “flesh”.

The bone ultimately gives the flesh the foundation to function, a structure to be grafted on. Bones speak of hidden internal structures, whilst flesh speaks of the external more visible aspects.
Genesis 2:21-25

21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.

23 “At last!” the man exclaimed.
“This one is bone from my bone,
and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from ‘man.’”

24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

25 Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.

· How do you identify an undeveloped bone?

Men are the Rib Cages whilst women are the Ribs, therefore it is crucial that a man finds the right rib bone shape, length and density that will match his own internal structure. If it doesn’t fit, DON’T FORCE IT! Otherwise it will cause the “body” (the marriage so to speak) severe pain and discomfort.

Test Your Own Foundations First
Which mirror are you using to assess yourself? Is it a true reflection or a distorted view? The clearer you can see yourself, the better you can analyse yourself and make adjustments. Then you’ll be a better communicator with others. (See the blog entitled “The Art of Communication”)

It is fundamental that each person knows his/her own: Person, Purpose, Plans and Personality, before they can recognise their Rib or Rib Cage.

So what makes the “Bone” structure of a person?

The Person (who)
· Your values
· Your expectations
· Your personal experiences

Their Purpose (why)
· Their unique purpose in Christ (e.g. promoting Christian values in business)
· What they live to achieve which would be the summation of their life’s effort and impact

Their Plans (how)
· How they are to implement their purpose (e.g. working in government to change the legislation to promote Christian values in the workplace)

And the “Flesh” structure?

The Personality (how you come across to others)
· Your feelings
· Your temperament
· Your perspective

Other Externalities
· Your appearance
· Material wealth
· Status